Nothing is going to completely heal your wounds. The thing I find most scary about grief is that it changes you, and you learn to live with it; it doesn’t leave over time. But, it does get easier, and there are a few things that help. I would just like to share some things I found comforting.
It greatly helped me to name our babies. It made their place in the family stronger, because while nobody could see them, they were alive and they are loved. Giving them a name helps give them a place.
It also helped me to have a little stuffed animal for each baby. I have bunnies because those were always my favorites growing up. It’s sad to do, but I rock those bunnies, sing to them, tell them how badly I wanted to watch them grow up. It gives me something to hold, and something to remember them by.
Finally, my greatest comfort, besides knowing my little ones are in heaven with Jesus, is knowing that I am their mother. Nobody else gets that privilege, and nothing can ever take that away from me. As a reminder of this, my husband bought me a necklace for Mother’s Day that says, “Mom, where life begins and love never ends.” I always wear it, as a reminder of the gift of motherhood. Life, however short, is a gift. Make the most of that gift.
The Misplaced Mom 